There are some shoes that feel great, but are as ugly as homemade sin. You never wear these shoes in front of other people if you can help it. They are just too comfy for you to get rid of. Like that poor guy that you have doomed to the "Friend Zone". You call him when you need your grass cut or a shoulder to cry on. You may even invite him to do things with your mother, but you have no intention of making it official and you shudder at any form of PDA because you don't want a possible suitor "to get the wrong idea".
Let me tell you a story to illustrate my point. My friends and I used to work as paralegals. It is a profession that requires a lot of walking and comfortable shoes are a must. One day after we returned from court the lights went out. It was a citywide blackout. As we made our way to the bridge and prepared for the long walk back home I saw a woman walking in some red wedges. The front of the shoe was too tight and the angle of the wedges were only making it worse Her toes were bright red and clearly swollen. It looked so painful. There were people on the street selling slippers and if I had had any cash I would have bought her a pair. Now I know when she woke up and got dressed she knew those were not all day/ walking shoes, but now that she had them on she seemed to feel like she had to make them work. I would have just bought some slippers from the street vendor, but I was never one to stick it out in a relationship. As a matter of fact, I am the only person I know who told her mother to either get a divorce or get over it. (My parents are still together, just in case you were curious.)
Then there are those perfect shoes. They are cute and comfy. You can wear them to work and transition them into an evening out. They never hurt. They have enough of a heel to elongate the leg, but not so much that they makes you look intimidating. They are the shoes that top off any outfit. They are "the perfect combination of sexy and cute" (Only funny if you saw Crazy Stupid Love). You wear them when you feel good and you wear them when you need a pick me up because they always get compliments. Those are the shoes you keep forever and you mourn them when they finally wear out. That is a soul mate.
As far as I’m concerned, the reason most people never get the happily ever after with their perfect other half is because they are wasting their energy working on relationships with people that don’t fit. We settle for “trying to make it work” because we are to scarred to hold out for something epic. I get it. I was there. I could have married College Jason or the guy from down the street or one of the guys from the church conventions. I understand compromise and I am really good at maintaining relationships, but I knew I wanted more. I wanted a relationship like “those” shoes. Who wants a relationship that squeezes until it causes blisters or that you makes you so sore that you have to soak every night? You can wear your party shoes everyday, but don't be surprised when your feet hurt.
I know so many people who gave up on the idea of meeting their soul mate and opted for the "love the one you're with" approach only to find that special spark now that they married with 2 or more kids. They wait it out hoping it will get better, but really just end up living with someone whose voice makes you want to run out in traffic. What do you do then? Do you leave and run off with that guy from payroll? Maybe you will luck out and find the Tom to your Rita, but most just end up looking like Tori Spelling or LeAnn Rimes and who wants that?
what about the shoes that hurt when you first get them but then turn out to be the perfect shoe... hmmm? lol
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