People often laugh when I reveal that I once told Husband, "I'm not going to be this cute forever and I am not going to waste all my good years on you." I did not say it as an ultimatum. I felt he deserved to know the truth. I followed it with this, "I know me and if we were to date for like 5, 10, 20 years and then you were to change your mind and decide it wasn't working I would not take it well and I don't want to end up old and bitter and with no other options because I spent my "good" years waiting on you."
The thing is, I realize that there is an expiration date on "young and sexy". My friend and I used to joke that we should just forget about school and become mid-life crisis replacement wives for man who wanted to trade his 40 (year old wife) for 2 20's. It sounds funny, but it highlights a truth that many of us try to ignore, even if you look good for a 40-45 year old, you are still 45, not 25. A prime example would be Cameron Diaz. She as a really tight body for someone knocking on 40, but she is no competition for 20 year old Cameron. The thing is, there will always be someone younger to take your place as the hot new thing and if you are not prepared to move on to become something else you are going to be in a world of trouble.
This brings me to my point. What happens when a woman who was making her way in life based on her looks do when she is no longer the hot young ticket? Do you just make the targets older? That is what you think, but dirty old men want the same girl that the young playas want. Take J. Howard Marshall. That man was as old and Methuselah, but when he wanted a younger woman he did not go for the "looks good for her age" still kind of inappropriate 40 or 50 year old. No, he went for the 20 year old Anna Nicole Smith. It did not matter that she was a stripper. She was young and hot and needed him. That is what makes a good trophy wife. Nobody wants middle-aged and desperate/needy. You either marry him now and milk that prenup (f you get him early enough you may not even have to sign on the dotted line) or you start thinking about developing some skills you can put on a resume.
So what recourse does an aging golddigger have? Well, thank God for reality television because she can now aspire to go onto Basketball Wives, Real Housewives of Somewhere, or Millionaire Matchmaker. Did you forget to put away some money when you dated that baller? Don't worry! Just be willing to exploit what little pull you have left for the cameras. It is better than stripping, right? At least you will keep you dignity. I am not downing all golddiggers. I think it is a great job if you can get it and it is much more work than people give a girl credit for, but I am laughing at the one's who think life is sweet and that their vixen status is going to last forever. (Even the Video Vixen knew she was going to need to write a book and collect some royalties.)
I know some of you are thinking that your guy is different, but he probably is not. Just look at Bill Maher. He loves a good lease, but you never see him in line to buy. Remember when his ex sued because she thought he was going to marry her. She wasted many of her good digging years waiting for him to pop the question and was sorely disappointed when her warranty ran out before the ring came. There is a limit to how long you qualify as a trophy wife and that starts around the time the Botox commercial start to seem interesting. So either fully commit and start milking that cow or stop letting good dudes pass you by because trust me they will more than likely be taken by one of those potential seeking women when you decide to "settle for less."
Without a plan you will just wind up being one of those girls who looks like they were ridden hard and hung up wet! ( I stole that from my girl, JJ Santana.) And trust me, you will be drying alone.
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