Messy People

I am SO tired of messy people. For those unfamiliar with the term, it has nothing to do with a physical mess. It is not about leaving socks on the floor or papers sprawled across the desk. In this context messy refers to people who constantly like to be in the middle of drama. They always want to be in some or start some "mess". The older and wiser I get the less tolerance I have for messy people.

This is especially true at work. I am OVER people proclaiming that they are never talking to What'sHerName and then by the time I get back from the bathroom they are laughing and giggling in the corner or how they are going to give TheMan a piece of their mind never to say a word. I am tired of giving pep talks and advice to people who clearly just want to fuss and moan and create a ruckus.

I know that I spend a great deal of time listening to people's problems and generally I am okay with that. That is the profession and the life that I have chosen and I love it. The problem with messy people is that they don't just want to vent. They want to get you riled up and have you say something out of order and minute you do. BAM! They go take that nugget to someone else and the next thing you hear is, "I was talking to Janaan and she agrees that Boss Lady is a two-faced crazy-eyed nosy monster." While these may be a good description of my feelings they were MY feelings. That is my opinion to share and I should be able to decide who I share them with. Messy people don't care to understand that perspective.

Messy people tell everyone the same story of frustration, usually without solicitation and then complain that others can't keep a secret. Messy people talk "BIG" talk all before the meeting and then sit and try to get others to present a point for them. Then afterwards they are back to "BIG" talk. That doesn't work for me. The last thing I need is to get into someone else's mess. When I hear, "I was hoping you would have brought that up in the meeting after she said that", or "I should have said more because she was wasting our time" I know that I am dealing with a messy person.

Why should I be speaking up for you? Why are you telling me "a day late and a dollar short" about OUR time being wasted. You just want to start some mess. Why would you tell everyone in the office about someone's personal conversation with you before you take it to HR? I love Grouchy, but he is messy and he especially loves "girl drama". I really wish that the Gorgeous Ladies Of Wrestling (I know some of you remember GLOW. The Farmers Daughter was my favorite. Loved the outfit...NO seriously loved it!) Then maybe he could channel his need for drama there instead of trying to create it at work. As of now I resorted to treating him like the clients and have started redirecting him. It works and I am thinking of doing it to everyone who crosses my new "No Mess, No Stress" boundary.

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