Parenting

You know those moments when your parents do something annoying, strange, or just plain crazy and you think to yourself, "I hope I never do that to my kids"?

Well, I had one of those moments today when after my husband and I made the decision not to send LoLo to the school Field Day my mother came and changed everything. Now before you start thinking that I am a horrible party killing mother who did not want her little boy to have a good time, I must assure you that up until yesterday he was going. The trouble began when I opened an email yesterday notifying me of the location change. Instead of having it in the park, they are having it in the open field near the school behind the community center where they had the Easter Egg Hunt. That is also the same field where he had a huge allergic reaction that left him looking like he had gone a few rounds with early 90's Mike Tyson.

I notified my parents that he would not be going and they became determined to convince me to send him, with my father saying things like, "You can't protect him from everything." To which, I replied, "If I were trying to keep him away from germs I would not have sent him to the circus, but not this time." Then he went in for the guilt about how the other kids will be talking about it and he will have missed it. "He will be ok." My mother on the other hand just went ahead and called to tell the school she would bring him. Then called to tell me. My favorite part was after she told me and then asked, "Is that ok?"

SSSUUUURRREEE! Of course it is. I don't know why I even bothered to think that I should be allowed to make decisions about the well being of my own child. I will fast forward through some of the repetitive talking and hit the high notes:

Mother: You didn't want him to go because of the allergies? I thought it was because I wasn't going to be there.
Janaan: I tried to tell you that I did not want him to have another breakout.
Mother: He can take Benedryl and I will bring him home if something happens.
Janaan: Fine.
Mother: No. You and Husband discussed it and I always overstep my bounds. I will call the school again and tell them he isn't coming.

3 phone calls later we are right back at step one, with him spending the day at Grandparent Day Care.

Hopefully they will keep me in the loop if they change their minds again.